Friday, March 23, 2012

30 weeks + "the decision"

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Best moment this week:   Hearing little man say he wants the baby to come now! 
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Gender:   I think baby is a girl?? .... I think.
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Miss Anything?   precious sleep!
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Nervous?   Why yes, about making "the decision."
[see below]
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Movement:   yes, mostly late at night and after eating. 
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Food cravings:   Hello junk food! - anything horseradishy, sweet, and lots of donuts! 
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Anything making you queasy or sick:  orange juice
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Labor Signs:   nope..
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Symptoms:  feeling huge, and have 'officially' entered the uncomfortable stage,
c-section incision,
 occasional heartburn
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Happy or Moody:   happy
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Looking forward to:   sharing the completed nursery!
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Little man entered the world via. c-section, May 15, 2008, at forty-two weeks...
an induction that went "south". 
We call him [Alex] "little man" because that is just what he's always been... a little man.
 At birth he blew us away with his 10 pounds and 11 ounces, and hasn't stopped growing since.
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 That being said, and with doctors basing "labor plans" on birth-history,
we've come to the point in this pregnancy where "the decision" has to be made.
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Do we attempt a VBAC? 
 
At first, It wasn't even a question.
It'll be 4 whole years since little man's delivery, when this baby arrives.
  [i hope they won't share the same birthday]
I would love to experience natural birth, and know numerous women who have had great, 
problem-free VBACs.
So, what's the big deal?
Well.... those were my thoughts until several weeks ago.
Before, I started measuring large and weighing in high...   just like time #1.
Before, my incision became even thinner and more painful.
I can barely cough or sneeze without "rippin' a stitch" or crying. 
How am I going to push a baby out?!! 
And then there's the doctors.... they're suggesting a scheduled c-section.
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So what it comes down to, if I go into labor before a scheduled c-section, do I even give it a try?
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Any Mamas out there been in the same boat?
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Any other big-baby-makers who want to share some advice? 
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 xoxo,

16 comments:

  1. Wow that is a tough decision. Doing what is best for you and baby I think is the most important.

    You c-section mommies are so tough. I was scared to death of getting a c-section. Surgery and needles scare me so much. I get light headed with an IV. Thinking of you.

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  2. o amy, that sounds like such hard decision. praying God gives you wisdom!

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  3. I understand your desire to have a natural childbirth. I too had to have a c-section with my first. There wasn't much time to think about it as they rushed me in for an emergency c-section and I am thankful that my boy was born healthy, but I cried, that wasn't the way it was supposed to go. I had decided I would do a VBAC when we had another. But then, when I got pregnant I started having second thoughts. My recovery from the c-section was tough, especially since I had gone through an entire night of labor, pushed for an hour, gotten en epidural and a bunch of I fluids. When they rushed me to the c-section they quickly had to give my some more anesthesia so they could get going. I felt like I couldn't breathe- I was, I was fine, but I was so numb from the neck down that I couldn't feel myself breathing. I had more fluid during the c-section and was swollen for a long time.

    I decided I didn't want to try a vaginal birth, go through all that labor and end up in another c-section so we went straight for the c-section. It is a decision I do not regret. The recovery from a planned c-section is so much easier than the other one was. My water broker and I ended up in the hospital before our scheduled date, but we went ahead with the c-section and it was a breeze compared to the first one.

    I hope this helps you some- I know it if a very tough decision to make

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  4. Hey -
    You will make the right decision!! but that doesn't make it easier either :)

    I can feel your pain of being "officially uncomfortable." They diagnosed me with polyhydramnios last visit and the babe is already over 4 lbs ... so now I have weekly ultrasounds until he/she comes ...

    if you ever need to vent to a momma in your "similar boat" let me know!!

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  5. I think "girl", too!
    You look too tiny to have such huge babies!!!
    I'll be praying for a small baby and peace about whatever decision is made!

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  6. My first was suppose to be a vaginal birth, but 14 hrs later I never dialated. C-section and he was healthy. 2nd baby planned c-secton, V-back was easier than my epideral & baby was healthy.

    I will be praying for you.

    You are & will be a great mommy no matter how the baby comes out (Vag or C).

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  7. Only you can to decide what is best for you and your baby. I had an emergency C-section with my second and tried a VBAC with my third. I was induced and they were not able to stabilize his heart so I had another c-section. With my fourth I decided to schedule a C-section, but of course I went into labor early with even my water breaking and I lost my plug. I was in labor for 6 hours before I could have a c-section since there was a scheduled one at the time. I was in a lot of pain but I do not like to show my pain so I guess the nurses took it as it was all right for me to wait so long. All I can say is I wish I would have asked to try for a natural because I was laboring for awhile naturally anyway. If I ever have anymore, I would want to try a natural birth.Just because I felt like crap even with my scheduled C-section. I think I would have been able to have him in about 2-3 more hours. I still think c-sections are way more painful than my first child's birth which was vaginal ( I did have an epi that time but I labored without meds for 6 hours before I had a c-section with my 4th). Sorry for the lengthy explanation but I just thought I would share my experience. But, again this is from my perspective and God will help you choose what is best for you both :)

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  8. oo gosh. that's tough. i can't imagine all the emotions and feelings that would go into that decision. praying it goes well for you.

    and huge ps. you and your little guy are pure adorable in your profile side photo. i'm sure baby two will be just as sweet.

    xo

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  9. I'm sure that everyone's experience is different and I'll be praying that you can make a decision that you can be at peace about.

    Now for my story....
    When our oldest was born, I was in labor for 19 hours and it just wasn't happening (baby was at an odd angle and I quit dilating). So I had an epidural and C-section. That was not in the plan, but it also wasn't an "emergency", so I had a little time to get used to the idea. I recovered quickly and even went to GA two weeks later for a family reunion.

    Two-and-a-half years later it was time to try again. We decided to try a natural birth, but I admit that I had lots of misgivings. I went into labor 2 weeks early and was admitted to the hospital. It seemed to me that at each step along the way they kept asking me if I wanted to keep trying or opt for a C-section. Looking back, I wonder if they had their doubts about whether I could actually do it. After 18 hours, I did do it, but not without lots of help, which caused lots of tearing and lots of stitches. It took a month before I could live without pain medication.

    Like I said, I know everyone's experience is different, but I think if I had just gone with a second C-section, I wouldn't be so scared to try again.

    I hope that either way, your little one will arrive safely and you have a quick recovery! We'll be waiting for the news. ♥
    Rosetta

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  10. Hey cous. Was terrified of c-section thought before having two natural. I love natural but realize that nothing is more important, nothing, than everyone arriving on the other side safe and sound. VBAC's are safe so maybe reading up on a bunch of happy VBAC stories would give you courage. Google search it and read and read and read, then go with your heart and your gut. If C-section seems the best way to arrive safe and sound, then, that's what to do instead.

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  11. I had a c section with my first because he was breech...and I hope to try a VBAC with the second. I'm not scared at all - I feel like it's what my body was made to do! But go with what feels right and peaceful for you : )

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  12. Congratulations! :) What a blessing the little ones are!

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  13. What a sweet post! I'm 30 weeks too, it's fun to see someone else at the same time! :) xxx

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