Friday, March 23, 2012

30 weeks + "the decision"

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Best moment this week:   Hearing little man say he wants the baby to come now! 
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Gender:   I think baby is a girl?? .... I think.
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Miss Anything?   precious sleep!
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Nervous?   Why yes, about making "the decision."
[see below]
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Movement:   yes, mostly late at night and after eating. 
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Food cravings:   Hello junk food! - anything horseradishy, sweet, and lots of donuts! 
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Anything making you queasy or sick:  orange juice
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Labor Signs:   nope..
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Symptoms:  feeling huge, and have 'officially' entered the uncomfortable stage,
c-section incision,
 occasional heartburn
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Happy or Moody:   happy
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Looking forward to:   sharing the completed nursery!
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Little man entered the world via. c-section, May 15, 2008, at forty-two weeks...
an induction that went "south". 
We call him [Alex] "little man" because that is just what he's always been... a little man.
 At birth he blew us away with his 10 pounds and 11 ounces, and hasn't stopped growing since.
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 That being said, and with doctors basing "labor plans" on birth-history,
we've come to the point in this pregnancy where "the decision" has to be made.
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Do we attempt a VBAC? 
 
At first, It wasn't even a question.
It'll be 4 whole years since little man's delivery, when this baby arrives.
  [i hope they won't share the same birthday]
I would love to experience natural birth, and know numerous women who have had great, 
problem-free VBACs.
So, what's the big deal?
Well.... those were my thoughts until several weeks ago.
Before, I started measuring large and weighing in high...   just like time #1.
Before, my incision became even thinner and more painful.
I can barely cough or sneeze without "rippin' a stitch" or crying. 
How am I going to push a baby out?!! 
And then there's the doctors.... they're suggesting a scheduled c-section.
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So what it comes down to, if I go into labor before a scheduled c-section, do I even give it a try?
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Any Mamas out there been in the same boat?
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Any other big-baby-makers who want to share some advice? 
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 xoxo,

Monday, March 19, 2012

toddlers, death +heaven

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How do you effectively explain death and heaven to a three year old, for the first time?   
This past week we encountered that reality, and have been sorting our way through the process. 
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Our dear friend's 4 month-old son passed away this week,  from a genetic condition, SMA type 1.
The last several days have been a rollercoaster of grief, sorrow, relief, yet, joy, and thanksgiving.  Baby Truman is no longer suffering and has been made new. Though his loved ones are left 'empty-handed' and heartbroken, how amazing that he is now perfect and living with Jesus, our ultimate goal. 
 Praise God!

Though it's difficult, as adults we know death is a fact of life.  Most have encountered it at least once, if not numerous times.  Most importantly, as Christians we know this world is not our home. We are only here for a short time... preparing and striving for eternal life with Christ.  
- However, for a toddler, this is all foreign and unknown... a concept they have heard little of.  

For the first time, this week, we as parents faced the challenge of introducing [human] death to our Alex. It could not be avoided, and we knew this was the time.......     

Truman's big brother, Lincoln, and Alex are buddies. They're about a year apart and are both "all-boy", loving tractors, trucks, and playing ball.   We were overjoyed when we heard of our friend's [the Heatwoles] growing family,  that "L" would be a big brother.  And around the time baby "T" was born, we announced our current pregnancy.  We explained to Alex that just like "L", he too would be a big brother.  I loved watching Alex interact with baby T, and his new interest in babies.

As it became clear, and was announced baby "T" had a special condition [shortly after birth],  I remember Alex picking up on it immediately. We talked frequently about baby "T" and his situation over the last several months, praying.  Last Sunday, our friends went to the hospital, as baby "T" had gotten sick and was struggling to survive.  We shared this with Alex, and surprisingly, he didn't say much.  

Tuesday morning we received the news..... baby "T" had gone to be with Jesus.   As I stood in the kitchen, "Come to Jesus" by Chris Rice playing, I read the text, and began to weep.  Alex came to me several minutes later asking, "what is wrong, Mom?"  I told him the news and explained that I was very sad, but happy at the same time, and why.  His only reply was that "Truman is with Jesus."  I let the subject go for the rest of the day until Alex brought it up that evening, stating that "Jesus can make us all better when we're sick."  

The memorial service and viewing were planned for Friday evening.  Blake and I agreed that to attend as a family.  As it came time to say "goodbye" to baby "T",  i felt uneasy and anxious, even upset. 
 .... How would Alex respond? ... Did we make the right decision? ... Is he too young?
      
We kept our comments simple, repeating what we had previously told him...  "Baby Truman is in heaven."  .....  "His body is here on earth, but his heart and soul are with Jesus."  "He isn't sick anymore, and he is very happy!"    -Needing to take care of some responsibilities, I left Alex with Blake until the service started.  Blake later told me that Alex asked to see baby 'T' again, and he then commented, "it doesn't look like him." 

Since then, and the burial service Saturday, Alex has made several remarks, but hasn't asked any specific questions.  I overheard him after several family-friends, "do you want to see Jesus?"  Also, stating, "baby "T" is in heaven!"  We are waiting for him to request a "let's talk" family-meeting, as he often does when ready to talk about something, or has a question.

..... I can't help but wonder what his little heart and mind are feeling, thinking.    ...  My prayer is that, even now, he would start to understand that this earth is not our home.  That most importantly, we want to be with Jesus, even if it means being apart from our family for a short time.



And with your final heartbeat, kiss the world goodbye...
then go in peace, and laugh on glory's side....
and, fly to Jesus...
fly to Jesus....
fly to Jesus, and live....

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In honor of baby Truman, balloons were released at the burial service ...
 a symbol of our need to 'release' him to God.
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Please pray for our friends, the Heatwole family.
Their journey, in a way, is only beginning.


Blessings,




Thursday, March 8, 2012

adventure + joys

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" Sometimes a mother can feel that the routines in her day are too repetitive.
Dishes, laundry, meals, diapers, and messes to clean seem to be the order of the day, every day.
We may feel discouraged by this.
Yet, these routines bring great comfort, stability and security to the family.
Not only that, but each new day brings grand new adventures!
New memories to build, new chances to love and nurture, and new opportunites abound,
 as we create loving atmospheres for our families.
The precious moments are lived out right alongside those regular routines.
Every day brings with it the joyful anticipation of surprises, blessings, unforgettable moments,
 and the increase of love.
Enjoy the adventurous life in your home today."     


No matter what you are doing today, many blessings!